Even though most of the time I'm sure I will be alone forever, because I hate people and give no one the time of day.
Seriously though, I hate being hit on. A real, genuine conversation will get you so much further than any pick up line, and if that's not true then that person is not worth your time. Unless you're just looking for a piece of ass and then hey, to each their own I suppose.
But I really hardly ever give anyone a chance. I know what I want and there is no need to string anyone along, I'm perfectly content by myself, and almost no one meets my standards.
Standards, if you didn't know, are idealistic measurements of another persons merit, or worth, for those of you that use the high school you attended as an excuse for not knowing the meanings of fairly simple terminology.
I have noticed that a majority of people don't seem to have standards so I highly suggest that if you don't have some, you invest in some, it could truly define your future. Of course you don't have to have as many as me, but a decent amount please. And nothing like, "He needs a job." Seriously, I've heard this before... if they don't have a job they shouldn't even be on your radar. Unless they have suffered a serious injury and can't work or are really trying to get one and just not having the best of luck at the moment, of course. Like one of mine is something like, I definately do not want to be involved with anyone who doesn't want to get out of their home town, ever. Townies = a no go. I don't care where you're from, even if you're from NYC, I like the possibility of moving where ever, and if an opportunity arises for me to go somewhere else I will highly consider it. I don't have time for small minded people who can't see what other places in the world have to offer. Just something to consider.
I would say I'm done being a snide bitch, but then I would probably be lying.
Anyway, the point of this post, even though I do have high standards and I mostly envision my life alone, maybe with an adopted child or two, I still hope that isn't the case. I don't think anyone actually wants to be alone forever, I just try to be as realistic as possible. Of course I would love to get married some day and have children of my own, and like any normal female I have a pinterest board dedicated to just that, or maybe two.... you know... I may have one for the wedding and one for the children.
And even when I get myself in a situation that's not so ideal, these lovely people still give me unrealistic exceptions and utterly hopeless hope:
1. My grandparents have somehow been together for 53 years, have 5 children and are pretty freaking awesome.
2. My parents, whose first marriage was an utter disaster, have somehow been in their second marriage, to each other, for I think it's been 10 years now. ........ I guess maybe I should elaborate there.. just a little. My parents got married for the first time when I was one, for some reason or another they decided to have another child, that turned out to be twins, I really have no idea why seeing as they fought all the time but hey. When I was four I got twin brothers and when I was 7 my parents got divorced. Thank God because our house was no safe haven. Then, after 7 years of being divorced, they got married again, after seeing each other for maybe 4 months. Even though at the time I was one very unhappy teenager, it seems to be working much better this time.
Probably part of why I give people one too many chances at times.
3. When my friend Ashley started seeing her boyfriend he had a girlfriend, and Ashley didn't know about it for awhile, she eventually found out and after a year of seeing this guy with a girlfriend, they finally broke up and Ashley and him have now been dating for almost 3 years, 4 if you count that first year. ---> I personally think this is a little crazy but hey, ..... it's working for them quite well.
4. My best friend was dating this guy for 3 years and was getting ready to move in with him when she met Logan and within like a weeks time she broke up with her boyfriend and started seeing Logan. It's been an adventure but a semester later she uprooted herself and moved in with him in a whole new city where she didn't know anyone. They've been together for over a year now and it's still crazy to think about but it's working and they are sickeningly in love lol. But I gained a best friend and I love them together. I love youuuu Lex. (:
5. My aunt was with the same man for 10 years, but he didn't want to get married. She ended up leaving him because of a few reasons but one of them being marriage , and after about 9 months of not talking to each other he wrote her a letter, and they started dating again and just got married about a year and a half ago and it's been a pretty wonderful thing. They both have bettered themselves and become a great couple in the process. When they split up this was really the last thing I ever saw happening, but they are so happy now, it's weird to think of how it use to be.
----I know there are more but those are the ones I thought of off the top of my head.
But they are all the exception, and I have always been very much the rule. And for anyone who has seen He's just not that into you, you know and should know already honestly, but we forget sometimes....
If he's not calling, if he's not texting, if he stood you up or ditched out on your plans, if he's not breaking up with his girlfriend, there are no valid excuses, he's just not that into you!
If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.
But my favorite is... "A man would rather be trampled by elephants on fire than tell you he's just not that into you."
In all seriousness.
If a man is really into you, nothing will stop him from being with you.
It's really that simple.
Till next time, xoxo